Sunday, 21 October 2012

Career My Foot.

Deep thoughts as usual.
That’s what zingerthots is all about.
I just finished watching the Movie ‘Married but Living Single’. Awesome one I must say.
In terms of the story line o!
 I am not in the position to start saying anything about the cast, who acted well or not. (Though that dude, Joseph Benjamin ………*wink*)
I saw something in that movie that I wouldn't want to experience.
 The Overbearing Career versus family life.
The movie showed me a new dimension to the career thing entirely.  
My husband will be the best in the world and we will have the loveliest set of kids that anyone would proud of, so why should I allow my career to stand in my way?
Why will I have a career that would come before my husband and kids?
My commitment to relationship and family values is much more important.
Why bother getting married if career is really the ultimate?
I don’t envy any career woman out there if she achieved all she has at the expense of her family.
Don’t get me wrong here, career is important; its just that family should always come first.
Maintaining the right balance is what is much needed here.
 Prioritize effectively and efficiently.
Delegate as much as possible.
I need to mention the wife battering part of the movie where Mr. Patrick lost his wife, and as a result lost his job and went into depression.
These are food for thoughts here.
Run from any abusive relationship before it’s too late. It starts with the raised voice during misunderstanding or arguments and progresses to the physical touch. I wouldn't say, much on these, which would probably be another topic entirely.
Let’s get back to the career thing.
I am not referring to the female folks alone here. The men too have a part to play.
Always create time for your wife and kids. It shouldn't be all about money.
Benjamin was a good guy and he did more for the family than his wife. And what was the end result?
He needed more attention than he was getting and had to get it from some other woman outside.
Now, when it gets to that level it takes the Grace of God to save such a marriage.
 (Go and watch the movie, so much to learn from it).
The boss you are slaving for probably doesn't even appreciate that effort and is waiting for the right time to kick your ass out.
So what’s the stress all about?
Life is not all about money. Happiness and contentment goes a long way in doing the trick.
What would take me off my family responsibilities shouldn't have given me room to get married in the first place.
I am feeling so soft on this issue. I want the best for my family and I am willing to make sacrifices to make it so.
Give this a thought, better still share with someone. You could be saving a marriage.
Meanwhile, as usual things are happening. *wink*wink*
Exams are over, thank God, I am back. Expect more thots from me; I have more time to think now.
What else?

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

Unanswered Questions.

Since I was a kid, I have had so many unanswered questions.

Not like I asked for answers but I probably decided to find out on my own.

Where do dogs go when they die? Heaven, hell or it just ends there? Still no answer till date. (You could tell me If you know).we had dogs as kids and whenever anyone of them died I would feel so bad and cry and it felt so real that I wish we would meet again but where is the dog going sef? i don’t know.

Do Ants talk to themselves?

Why do cockroaches still come around us knowing they will die just like their forefathers? Abi they have short memory?

How can you turn to a dog when u pick money on the floor? (They say its jazz abi?)

How possible is it that Rent-a-Ghost could disappear without a trace when they pinch their nose and 9ja movie would use smoke when they want to disappear?

Why was spotty in super- ted so dumb? (I always felt it had a chicken pox and keep hoping for the day it will heal).

How come pinky and the brain have never gotten to take over the world?

How come I missed the only episode where they ever showed the face of the big aunty in Muppet babies?

What do babies dream of when they sleep? They dream of mom and dad or how they want to play or what? I want to enter their brain and know, but I can’t. I was once a baby and I can’t remember anything.

I remember a particular time when church crusades were really in vogue (I think it still is sha). I would see the bold words CRUSADE!!! CRUSADE!!! CRUSADE!!! Staring at me from the posters everywhere, i would want to ask my mom what it means but would decide against it and keep trying to get the pronunciation on my own. Eventually I got my own version.
CRAW-SHADE!!! CRAW-SHADE!!!CRAW-SHADE!!! My Mom wondered for days what I was saying till I pointed out proudly at one of the posters that I was right. lol. Everyone in my family still laughs at me till today. At least I made effort na!!!.

Growing up now the need to know more is still there. I wish I could know it all. I really wish.

I want to know what attracts a lady to a guy. Though funny, but I can’t explain. More like attraction sha, one u can’t explain. That gish gish and giri giri feeling? Then it just dies like that. Gbam. Kilode?

And this one is my new observation; I think the population of houseflies has reduced. Just saying what I noticed, cos I hardly see them these days. Where did they go to?

I still wonder why KT is still my friend.

Why mamacita would be asking about teddy Roxon (hope d spelling is right) on a Monday morning.
Why Ty suddenly wants to be my friend again.

What the heck do my nephews see in Ben Ten, Harry & Toto, and Teletubies?

Maybe what I also saw in voltron and super-ted, but wait, they made more sense and they talk. Except for chuckle hounds (I hope u still remember that).

All these can do without getting answers simply because they would always bring smiles on my face whenever I come up with a silly one.

The questions whose answers would never be funny are that of murder and killings.

The Aluu‡4‡.  Can’t help but mention it here.
With deep pain for the harm done to the family and a whole nation, no answers would suffice as to why.
I refused to watch the video. Hear say alone is disheartening.
I pray from the bottom of my heart that those guys will rest in perfect peace.
Judgment is for God, and I know he is a fair God.
I pray we will not be victims of circumstance by God's Mercies in Jesus Name.(Amen)
Say a prayer for God to comfort the families because words can’t simply be enough.

Still so much unanswered questions.


Wednesday, 3 October 2012


Everyone wants to be a blogger.
Blogs are everywhere.
Everyone probably wants to make money through Adsense.
I am beginning to wonder what the blogging business is all about asides writing.
Should it be done out of passion more like hobby or a desperate bid to get a means to making money?
It has to be a desire or more like a calling (like pastors are called by God).
You wouldn't prepare junk just to have traffic on your site. You also wouldn't copy and paste from other blogs or newspaper publication without indicating your source. We all know you didn’t write it, the story didn’t drop on your desktop either.
I read various blogs today, and I wasn’t too impressed. It’s not a must to write, make blogging a thing to be proud off. You don’t have to be petty with your stories.
Just like a reporter, the public needs facts and figures. They want to believe your stories because originality sells you out there
There are people who have been blogging for years and were not known. One day they rose up to fame. Be patient, the search light will come your way soon too. It is only a matter of time.
I read a blog that carried a story on Uti Uwanchukwu’ Gay saga today and it was quite vague. No source was disclosed at all and the story could have been made up. In fact I believe it was made up. Not good enough.
Another Blog was just copying Lindaikeji verbatin including pictures posted and all. Thats not good enough.
I am new in the blogging thing, with the little I have seen I know its progressive and over time I will perfect the skills.
I would close with a word to my fellow bloggers. Let’s keep it real, do not be a blogger because it is in vogue. Do it because you love it and it comes to you naturally and please focus on your area of interest.
I give Kudos to Bella Naija and Linda Ikeji.
Happy New Month and Happy 52nd independence Anniversary to Nigeria.