Monday, 3 March 2014

Truth or Dare.

Been a long time here, I just have to show face before I get a blank month of no post.
My thoughts keep revolving around Wana’s various topics on ‘Sharing Life Issues’. I get to listen to her program on radio daily (thank God the days of Faaji FM are over). Though her topics are kind of stereotyped, this is because they mostly revolve around relationships. There is still always something to learn from them. There are a lot of real life experiences out there, I couldn’t have imagined. Tweeted a couple of times on air but really I don’t have any experience to share.
The most intriguing topic for me in recent times is about a woman who cheated on her husband with his best friend (who was also the best man at their wedding), and with the threat of blackmail hanging all over her. She is faced with the choice to comeout clean to her husband, damn the consequences or keep the secret and dance to the tune of the blackmailer.
I was amazed with caller’s point of view. Majority (both men and women) of them said she should never confess. According to them ‘this would be the end of her marriage
What if the husband finds out when the blackmailer makes good his threat? No one was able to give a way out on that.
One interesting answer from a female caller who gave hard facts and I quote’ in this part of the world, men find it difficult to forgive some offences committed by women and infidelity is on top of the list’. Yeah, I agree with her, it’s a man’s world, and a man can cheat and get away with it. No same story for a woman.
However, in as much as I agree with her point, it doesn’t make the act right. The question is; why would you cheat? There are loads of reasons or excuses out there for people to cheat.
Another man called and went ahead to counsel her on how to turn the case around on the blackmailer saying he forced and manipulated her into the act. I was amazed. He went to the extent of stating how she can get a restraining order from the police and rope the blackmailer in completely
Surprisingly, I was amazed because no one chastised her on why she did it. They just went ahead to encourage her on how to conceal the act.Meaning that if she is able to get away with this she will live to cheat another day.
Just One caller, a Female (thank God), she said she should come out clean on the truth with her husband and prays she gets his forgiveness. If not she should keep praying. Her emphasis was on being right with God not Man. That is the absolute truth as hard as it might be for her.
In like manner, I read the opinion of Chimamanda Adichie on the Antigay bill. She was neither for or against the bill she was simply being logical about it. Looking at it from different angles and stating her observations. She was admonished and insulted based on her opinions. Would you chastise her for stating her opinion?
Same way I won’t chastise any of the callers, they are also stating their opinion. However, the trend of answers shows a true reflection of the moral standard in our modern day society.
As usual, feel free to express your thoughts.
I checked the date of my last post and its well over a month. Never mind nothing much is happening. As usual, it’s the usual hectic schedule. Sure February was a good month for us all.
Ponder on this line; don’t worry about anything, instead pray about everything
Wishing you the best of the new month.