It’s been a while I posted. I remember the bashing I got from my last post. Not nice at all. Anyway, I don’t mind the criticism at all. Though, all of them except one came via pings and word of mouth. No wahala, as long as the message is passed,(it was scary sha.)
My “Not so perfect “post, was actually ‘Too perfect”. Lol. I figured ‘pretty’ (the wife) was going to get old fast with the kind of boring routine stress she was going through on a daily basis considering that there is no kid yet. When the baby comes, it will be double stress. And the husband was doing the opposite. Well, my scenario didn’t capture a bad day or a time where the couple had one crisis or the other. (That will be a book already if continued). Still bruised from the bashing I hadn’t figured out what to do in my next post, to correct the impression or I should just move on and act like I was on point. Anyway I got a way out last week when I watched the old movie “Obsessed” staring Beyonce Knowles and Idris Elber(frankly, he is good-looking and charming). Truth be told, I just watched the movie for the first time. Initially when I started I was happy that I had the close to perfect scenario and *Boom* the hitches surfaced. I wont go on telling you all about it because I am sure most of you have seen the it. Derek (Idris Elber) had what every man would wish for in Beyonce and his son. However, like the saying goes, if Mohammed won’t go to the mountain, the mountain will come to Mohammed. Derek didn’t look for trouble but trouble came looking for him. Really, the temptation was there but considering the wonderful life he lived with his wife and son, he didn’t want anything to stain the close to perfect home they had built. Alas…….The troubles will come in whatever form; family issues, insecurity, work pressure, financial issues, peer pressure and loads of others. However I believe they are all issues that can be walked over. (Although they might be difficult). It’s a mindset, looking beyond the challenges in front of you makes the difference. If there is one thing I ask for daily from God, it is patience. That is a priceless virtue and it takes Grace to have it. I keep wanting more of it because you can never have enough when we face the challenges of life day in day out. One other important thing to learn from the movie is the duty of disclosure. Be open as much as possible to your partner, not keeping anything from each other. What you see as irrelevant might actually make so much difference. Not going to write much, just making amends and trying to buttress my points. Please don’t send your hard knocks (just kidding, feel free). I won’t be talking on this again.
As usual, loads of activities all around me. First I want to give kudos to a wonderful team I worked with in church over the last couple of weeks. I never knew I had the organizing spirit in me, at least not so strong. Pulled it off and I was proud of myself and most importantly I thank God. Praise Fowowe in the same car with me talking one on one? (My head is still swelling). That was one powerful message he delivered yesterday. Sorry, I wish I could get the message across to you somehow or better still share some nuggets from it with you some other time. I must admit however that it was a stressful weekend for me, and I add “very stressful”. A Big thank you to Bebe. Looking forward earnestly to next weekend, I can hardly wait.*wink*.
To other mind bugging things, na real wa for me o!!!. I can be very dramatic, not spontaneous sha Maybe I am no longer sure of what I am capable of doing. I know that, what you say is actually different from what you can do. There are some things, which are way beyond our control. Not knowing the difference between left and right. (I didn’t say right or wrong). I keep saying it can only get better. Yes it is getting better, the twist is just unpredictable. Like my boss would say, You are confusing yourself and confusing everybody. Don’t mind me.
What else? My best pally at work has just been transferred to another branch, *sadface*. I will survive.
Then, a couple of old contacts surfaced last week. I know it’s all good sha (truth is I don’t think so).
Goldie was laid to rest today, RIPP. God will grant her eternal rest and comfort her family.
Posting on a Monday is odd. I wonder where I got the strength. Sleep beckons.
Lovely night peeps.