Friday, 31 May 2013

Respect Yourself.

Happy (Belated) democracy day to you!
Not like I have an insight into what happened in the country on the 29th day of May 2013. Guess nothing would happen at Eagle Square Abuja after the Henry Okah saga. Whatever, Nigeria my homeland, it is well with you.

Talking of respect, I have had this thought penned down for about three months now but I just never got to write about it. More like I over looked it.
I went to the Library to read for a solo exam, and barely 30 minutes after I settled into my reading, one of the librarians walks up to a lady a few seats away from me and politely tells her that the use of laptops is restricted to certain areas in the library. She was to stop using the laptop where she was and move to the suggested area or she could remain on her seat and stop using the laptop. The young lady simply obeyed and relocated.

I went for a short break after a couple of hours and came back to my books. Shortly after, the same incidence happened with another lady (I wonder why only ladies). This time around it was quite different. Same instruction was given to the new lady in question but she seemed adamant to stay, insisting that she wasn't disturbing anyone. The librarian did warn her couple of times and came back to check if she had obliged with his instruction but she remained adamant. Considering the fact that it was a library and usually quiet, the librarian tried as much as possible to talk hush hush, but the frequent movement started gaining attention from everyone around.

Sensing it was getting out of hand the man decided to call the attention of a superior officer, who came promptly and gave the lady five minutes to move. Five minutes ko... She didn't budge. Trust me by this time; I was just staring at the lines in my book I wasn't reading anything.  Everyone was distracted already.
The appointed time came and this time around, three officials came and before she could open her mouth to say anything, they helped her packed her books and ‘lappy’ and showed her the way out.
So who is the winner here?

She lost the fight of course! Who is she? VIP? If she is, she won’t be in the same library with me, of that I am sure. So what was the big deal in obeying a SIMPLE instruction? In the real sense of it, she wasn't disturbing anyone directly with the use of her laptop in that space, but there must have been a reason that rule was put in place. As long as the rule doesn't apply to you alone, it should be respected and followed. You could perhaps ask why they had such a rule in place and that’s ok. The first lady that was accosted simply obeyed showing she was more realistic and respectful.

So her action could be as a result of anything.  Family value is on top of my list. Is that how she disobeys orders at home? Can she be an obedient child and wife at all?Considering the fact that the library official in question was much older than her. What the heck was wrong with her?

Bring back the scenario into our everyday lives and think of simple instructions you fail to obey and end up being punished or embarrassed for. Sometimes we think it’s all about being smart, but really it is not. Silly move I must say. That your friend got away with it doesn't mean you will. It’s that simple.

That BRT/one way lane you pass knowing its wrong; keep it up. Your day is coming.

Little things you feel don’t matter actually do.
For instance now, maybe (just saying) a guy had been eyeing that lady quietly in the library and had planned to walk up to her at some point, he witnessed what happened and he is turned off. He immediately sees her as a no go area and just maybe she is single and seriously searching o; she just blew it over.
People read meanings into what you count as little. Save yourself some embarrassment by obeying simple rules.

Personally, I hate being insulted and embarrassed anything that will draw attention to me in a negative manner; I avoid it like a plague. If it happens, I get so upset. That is how much i respect myself.
Shallow talk abi? Keep reading and don’t forget I warned you except of course you are used to being embarrassed; perhaps it’s an everyday thing for you.
My thots as usual.Feel free to express yours.

What’s happening around?
Yippee, my little Scream baby is 1 year old! Whoop whoop!!. 30th May, that’s his day. How time flies. Long life & prosperity dear. I love you loadz. The senior crew will be cruising in. I am so looking forward to this weekend. Fun all the way.
Three (3) years now, Beji has left us. She will always be remembered. KT, you have always been strong, and I admire you for that.*hug*.
So Big brother; the chase, has started, no time to watch as usual but I’m sure I can still catch up with the channel O (now Airtel) party and the Sunday evictions. Mom can always update me on the daily shows. In just a few days sef, I am already seeing things.

So in the last one week I tried to learn how to fly at night, I tried for one night and crashed the next night. Abeg I no fit. My hobby is sleeping copy that. So if I kill my sleep for you, eh... you are loved.
I want you to give this some thought; Most times, we usually have what we get, not what we want. When we eventually see what we want, our hands are full with what we have gotten and we are left with the option of either dropping what we have, to get what we really want, or sticking with what we have. Never mind me, parables ain’t my thing, just giving it a try.*covers face* (Read it again joor!!)
Thumbs up to AK, I trust you as always, it is going to be a walk over for you this time around*wink *wink*Hug*Hug*.
Happy Married Life to Tolulope, I wish you all the best in life as you take this bold step.

On a final note: we are going into the month of June. It is usually the most eventful month of the year for me. My Birth month, loads of birthdays, anniversaries, my Dad’s remembrance and more.
I must mention the Dana Airline Crash. It will be one year in a couple of days, June 3rd. I pray from the bottom of my heart that we would see no such of it again. It was a loss to both the families and the entire nation. The Lord will comfort us all, In Jesus name! It won’t be too much for you to say a word of prayer for the families affected, pray for their comfort and that the peace of the Lord will continue with them.

Happy new month peeps.
Love y’all.


  1. nice post! yeah I agree, stay away from parables. :p
    keep it up!

    1. Lol. Hmmmm... I will try but its not a promise. Tk u.

  2. Respect. Apparently, a lot of people do not understand that getting respected starts from being respectable and respectful. And its a sort of Law of Nature that we get reflected back to us what we project to the world around us - people, places, things... This is apt n timely. Nice. Looking out for the next edition.

    1. Thank you Timmy, Respect earns respect. Well said. Next post coming up soon.

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